How different would your Valentine's Day be if you put your HEART first this Valentine's?
I promise it will be a win-win for your loved ones. Because by following your heart and what it wants raises your vibes and ripples out in to the world around you.
Think of it like this, would you like to have a grumpy or distracted person in your life buy and give you a gift out of obligation or worse, out of fear of losing you?
Or what if someone who was happy and content in life gave you a smile and a compliment or better yet, an authentic expression of their love and gratitude for being in their life? Gift or no gift. In actions or words.
I invite you to join me this Saturday for some medicine for your heart. I'll be presenting during a free, online Heart-Centered Wellness Marathon hosted by Aware Meditation, a non-profit Mediation organization based in California. No meditation experience require. All are welcome.
If you can't make it live, no problem, it will live on YouTube to watch at your convenience.
*From forest walks to calls with loved ones, from a special chocolate treats to some quiet time in nature, whatever you do for yourself this Valentine's Day let your heart inspire a gift of self love*
A friend is not just defined by the gifts they give, or even the laughter and the fun times they share. A true friend gets imprinted in to us by being beside us when we go through hard times. Why can’t we try to also do that for OURSELVES?
“Sometimes the most noble thing is to have a bad day and to be willing to be with yourself through it.” Matt Kahn
Our society puts high value on happiness and satisfaction. Having those things and similar attributes in our lives is surface comfort. To truly connect and love ourselves deeply and fully, we need to allow ourselves to be in the uncomfortable states of being like guilt, sadness, shame and anger. Treating OURSELVES with compassion to allow our WHOLE SELVES to be accepted, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Those parts of us do exist and if suppressed through distraction and denial, will fester causing us to deeper discomfort when they finally erupt. And we all know how that turns out.
So please take time to allow YOURSELF to be your best friend. Stand up for YOURSELF against society’s myth of perfection that “you should be happy and grateful”. That only brings in more shame when YOU may not be feeling those things (Side note: shame is the lowest emotion on an emotional scale, and our society has created a shaming culture which I hope changes soon). Except YOURSELF completely as you would your infant or child. Bring unconditional love to yourself by accepting every joy and every pain, every sadness and every madness, every discomfort and every blissful contentment. Give YOURSELF some “undivided attention” every day, even if only for 10minutes.
Just for 10minutes: Turn off the screens. Turn off your phone. Sit with yourself and listen. Comfort yourself. Meditate. Go for a walk with yourself. Know deep down that you are loved by YOURSELF. So forgive yourself for forgetting about YOU! Make up with YOUR OLDEST FRIEND by being extra kind and extra attentive. Then promise to keep an open dialogue and check-in daily to help be there “through thick and thin, through better or worse…”. And you will THRIVE.
"If you find you can't make it to 70 (years old) by any but an uncomfortable road, don't you go." Mark Twain
"Yuck, I don't want to touch those old dirty dishes"
"Ewwuu, that garbage stinks, I'm not taking it out"
"I don't want to join that new group. I won't know anyone"
There are many daily things we don't want to do and mostly because they take us out of our comfort zone. Getting out of bed in the morning is even uncomfortable for most of us; we're groggy, tired, and it's so warm in bed and cold on the other side of the covers.
Here are the lies and the truths about comfort in life. The main lie: a part of you thinks that you have control of the comfort in your life. The truth: you can not avoid discomfort for long. You will encounter it regardless, usually by force with heightened stress. You will also experience emotions of shame, guilt and sadness for NOT doing things to avoid discomfort. Not doing more is the largest regret of most people at the end of their life.
And here's the secret; the key. If you CHOOSE to experience discomfort and dive in to it, you will not only eliminate feelings of shame or guilt replacing them with feelings of accomplishment and contentment, you will actually choose to change your outlook on life from SURVIVING to THRIVING.
A seed on a tree does not think, "I don't want to fall from the comfort of my home. I don't want to live in the cold ground and wait and wait in the dark unknown." The seed just surrenders in to it's circle of life, leaving it's comfort, and ALLOWING life to flow from it. The seed will eventually change in to a tree/flower or food for other life. Either way, it's does not feel negative feelings in the discomfort parts of it's life. It gives up control and surrenders to LIFE. Simple life. Excepting both the discomfort and the comfort without analyzing them.
Life is uncomfortable and messy and full of change. It is also full of millions of tiny seeds of beauty just waiting for you to see them. Embrace and surrender in to life with it's comforts and discomforts instead of fighting and resenting. This will be the key to embodying your life's purpose, connecting to your heart and to your personal growth.
You ultimately choose to THRIVE or not by choosing to SURRENDER or not.
by Carolyn Green
As I eat the last of three chocolate cookies in a row (oops), I remember that life needs moderation. Trying not to be hard on myself, I focus on the truth of this. We can always justify our actions but we need to remember the truth, Life needs balance and moderation be so.